Planning your wedding can be the most stressful time of your life. While "keep calm and carry on" is something people love to say, it's not always the easiest thing for a busy bride-to-be to do! That's where the experts come in...
Vogue asked some of the top wedding planners the key to keeping sane during this exciting time. Below are their tips which we also agree will help you keep it together. They'll also help you to enjoy this unforgettable time in your (AND YOUR SPOUSE'S) life.
Hire a planner.
Regardless of how simple or elaborate you are envisioning your day, planning out the logistics of such a special event will take time. “My advice for a bride-to-be is to begin working with a planner as soon as you set the wedding date,” says Ron Wendt, CEO of Ron Wendt Design.
“There is no worse feeling than that of being rushed—or told that you missed an opportunity because of time constraints. Planning your wedding should, and can be, such a fun process if you go about it properly with a professional. Start early and save yourself the unnecessary stress,” Wendt adds.
“Especially during the month leading up to your wedding—you should be concentrating on friends, family, and pampering yourself,” says Sara Fried of Fête Nashville. “Not calling all your vendors, updating them on head-count changes, worrying about the weather, and finalizing the timeline and vendor load-in details!”
Ask for help.
“It always confuses me when brides tell me they don’t want their bridesmaids to have to do anything,” Fried says. “It’s an honor to be asked to be in a wedding, and your friends want to help make your wedding memorable, personal, and as stress-free as possible, just as you would do for them!”
If you get overwhelmed with the task of stuffing envelopes, finding bridesmaids dresses, or choosing favors, ask your bridesmaids for help. “There’s nothing wrong with asking a friend to take on the task of setting up manicure appointments for everyone or ordering lunch and mimosas for your wedding day,” says Fried.
What is urgent versus what is important? “It’s easy to get bogged down by the daily demands of planning a wedding. Write down the three things you value most in your life and keep them front and center,” Boardman suggests. Focusing on what matters ensures you won’t have a conniption over which table linens to choose.
“I cannot stress the importance of flexibility enough,” says Binder-Brynes. “Many brides and grooms these days have precise visions of what they want their wedding to be. It is good to have some idea of what you desire, but remaining flexible is key to reducing stress and finding enjoyment in the planning. And choose your battles. Deal with the most salient and immediate problems first and leave the less pressing ones for a later time,” she says.
Enjoy the journey.
‘Good stress’ is still stress. “Brides-to-be sometimes feel guilty that they are not enjoying every moment of what is supposed to be one of the most exciting times of their life,” Boardman says. Getting enough sleep, maintaining an exercise regimen, starting a meditation practice, and eating a healthy diet are ways you can fortify yourself and stay strong within the wedding vortex.
It’s not all about you!
Your fiancé is now your forever partner, so ask him for ideas and input. “The more decisions you make together, the closer you will become—and the more personal your wedding will be to the both of you. It’s a great experience to learn how to compromise and choose your battles,” Fried says.
Boardman echoes that sentiment. “Remember who you are marrying. I can’t stress this enough—it takes two to get married, so there are two who have to be considered in the planning stages. Here is where flexibility comes in again; you are both important that day, and planning your wedding sets the tone and a precedent for many other ‘plannings’ to come in your future.”
(Interview from Vogue.com)